Sex and The Cornfields

Relationships. My favorite topic...obviously.

This past week, I sat through the talks. I went to the sessions. I was involved. Yeah, that's right, I went to all of the freaking Sex and the Cornfields stuff. And just like always, they did not answer anything. They did not give any useful information to me. Actually, the only thing that I was truly informed of was: "Hey, you are still single." Sweet, thanks guys. However, this strange event that only Christian Schools would put on did provide many outside conversations. Therefore, did do its job...yes, I admitted it.

Two main conversations came out of this week:

The first one being the completeness in being single. All around us, we are tempted by this idea of dating. We are young and we should have a mate. That only makes sense because soon, very soon (it is spring after all), we should be getting married. This thought gets into our mind and we think about it more than it seems. It is talked about in every single conversation, so how can we not think about it. However, the truth is that it is okay to be counter cultural. We can be complete without someone else in our lives. It is perfectly normal to do so. We cannot be upset that we are not like "everyone" around us. Here's a hint, everyone is not truly everyone. It is okay to be complete without someone else. There may be a day where someone else "completes you," but if that day is not now, then it is okay. I know that seems a bit simplistic, but it is a simplistic thought that a single person does not always think when surrounded by relationships.

The second conversation that came up more than once this week is this thought of being married right out of college. We love love here at Taylor University. We love people getting engaged and getting married. The faster the marriage the better. It is super healthy for that to be the case. Maybe we are a bit confused in this thought. The truth is that we do not often emphasize how important it take a bit of time before getting married. We do not emphasize that marriages fail more often within Christian colleges. We do not emphasize that it really is not going to be as easy as it sounds. We do not emphasize how when two people are both in a time of transition, it may make marriage harder. Is it possible? Yes, but it fails more often than not. We lie to ourselves to often when it comes to marriage. We get married because we are scared. We do not want to live in this transitional moment by ourselves. We do not want to wait any longer and just want to be together. Marriage is forever, what's a few more months? Is it not more important to take time to truly grow and re-identify who you are before throwing someone else in the mix? If you and the other person are both trying to figure out yourselves, you'll get to a point where you realized that you never did that. Then what? Grow up...then get married.

Conclusion:

It's okay to be single...don't be dumb, just wait