I am rare from my friends when it comes to communication
especially with emotions or feelings. I have no issue talking through
situations or telling others that how a specific situation makes me feel. When
it comes to this, I am definitely the black sheep out of all the humans that I
hang out with. However, it’s who I
am and through it I am continually growing.
One way that I have been growing in this lately is through
understanding the concept of ownership in relation to emotions, thoughts, and
ideas. There have been a few scenarios this year where I have started to lose
myself because of my lack of taking control or owning up my own situations. I
am not just talking about my actions or how I have responded in a situation,
but I am talking about not letting other people take control when it is not
their place to be in control.
It is easy as human beings to allow others to take control
in situations. We don’t like conflict and we don’t like to be in scenarios
where we are uncomfortable. In some cases this isn’t an issue, but it
definitely can become a problem. We let what others do or don’t do to us
control the way that we respond or react. We don’t want to respond in a certain
way because we don’t want to hurt them. We stop looking out for ourselves because
it isn’t comfortable or because it challenges us and to be honest we would
rather not deal with it. When we allow others to take control of situations and
we don’t own up to what we should, we are no longer in control of our own
emotions or feelings.
It might seem like an easy way out at the time, but the
reality is that we are greatly disadvantaging ourselves from an opportunity of
growth. We have to be real and we have to be honest about what is actually on
our minds. Silence does nothing but sets us back and keeps us from becoming who
we were meant to be. We learn and grow through community and community only
happens through communication.
All these thoughts seem a bit jumbled and mix matched, but
all I want to say is that our thoughts and emotions belong to no one else. We
owe it to ourselves to take ownership of what is truly ours. No one else
deserves to hold that over our heads. Here’s to being real and to being
challenged.
